Amrita Rao and her husband RJ Anmol opened up about their pregnancy struggles, sharing in a YouTube video how their plans to increase their household led to them contemplating surrogacy. Unfortunately for them, whereas their surrogate conceived, they lost the baby.
The couple is dad and mom to a son, Veer, whom they welcomed in 2020. But, there was a time once they have been struggling to conceive, and thought of choices like IUI and IVF. But, it was surrogacy that excited them essentially the most.
Amrita, 40, mentioned within the video that it was her husband who needed to have a little one greater than her. “I was still cool about it… I completely believe that when you are trying to have a baby and you do not succeed, you just leave it to faith,” she mentioned, whereas her husband added, “But, you need to explore all your options.”
When a physician advised surrogacy to the couple, they have been open to it, however had some apprehensions as effectively. “We had to interview some surrogate mothers, know about their health and family,” Anmol mentioned.
They added that Amrita was advised that she was bodily okay to hold a little one, however because the couple was unable to conceive naturally, they considered surrogacy as the best choice.
For the uninitiated, surrogacy is of two varieties: conventional surrogacy, whereby a surrogate is artificially inseminated with the sperm of the daddy, and she will be able to then carry the kid full time period; and gestational surrogacy, whereby eggs from the mom are fertilised with the daddy’s/donor’s sperm and then the embryo is positioned into the uterus of the surrogate. In this case, the organic mom is the girl whose eggs are used, whereas the surrogate is known as the ‘birth mother’.
During the ready interval — once they anticipated to be taught if the conception had occurred — they got the ‘good news’. “The doctor told me the baby has a heartbeat,” Anmol mentioned. But, a few days later, they learnt that there was not a heartbeat. Amrita, surprisingly, took the information positively.
They took a break and the next year, they have been advised to strive IVF. “I didn’t want to do it,” Amrita mentioned, and Anmol added, “But, there was no choice.”
They tried one IVF cycle, however nothing occurred. When the second — at a new clinic — was additionally unsuccessful, the Vivah actor determined to not endure it. They even tried Homeopathy and Ayurveda, however nothing labored.
“Then, I began to think if we even wanted a child,” Amrita mentioned. They determined to just accept the fact of the scenario — that they might by no means have a baby. They packed their baggage and went on a trip to Koh Samui in Thailand.
In March 2020, Amrita felt a little ‘strange’ and determined to get a blood check, outcomes of which got here out optimistic.