Healthy relationships bring out the best in you and make you feel good about yourself. A healthy relationship does not mean a “perfect” relationship, and no one is healthy 100% of the time, but the signs below are behaviors you should strive for in all your relationships.
Healthy relationships manifest as healthy communication; Another important part of a healthy relationship is loving yourself. Here are some characteristics and behaviors of a healthy relationship.
Here are 10 signs of a healthy relationship
The relationship moves at a speed that feels comfortable to each person. It’s normal to want to spend a lot of time with someone when you first meet them, but it’s important that you are both on the same page on how the relationship moves. In a healthy relationship, you are not rushed or pressured in a way that makes you feel overwhelmed.
Confidence that your partner will do nothing to hurt you or ruin the relationship. In a healthy relationship, trust is easy and you don’t have to question the other person’s intentions or if they support you. They respect your privacy and would never subject you to a “test” to demonstrate your loyalty.
You can be honest and sincere without fear of how the other person will respond. In a healthy relationship, you must feel that you can share the whole truth about your life and your feelings, you will never have to hide things. They may not like what you have to say, but they will respond to disappointing news in a considerate way.
You have room to be yourself outside of the relationship. The other person should support their hobbies and relationships with other friends, family, and coworkers. The other person does not need to know or participate in every part of their life. Having independence means being free to do it and giving your partner the same freedom.
You value the beliefs and opinions of others and love yourself for who you are as a person. You feel comfortable setting limits and trust that the other person will respect those limits. They cheer you on when you accomplish something, they support your hard work and dreams, and they appreciate you.
The relationship feels balanced and everyone puts the same effort into the success of the relationship. You don’t allow a person’s preferences and opinions to dominate, and instead, you listen and make commitments when you don’t want the same thing. You feel that your needs, wants and interests are as important as the other person’s. Sometimes you can put in more (money, time, emotional support) than your partner, and vice versa, but the result always feels fair and even.
They are loving and empathetic with each other, and provide comfort and support. In a healthy relationship, the other person will do things that they know will make you happy. Kindness must be a two-way street: it is given and returned in your relationship. You show compassion for the other person and the things that matter to them.
Own your actions and words. Avoid blaming and can admit when you make a mistake. You really apologize when you have done something wrong and continually try to make positive changes to improve the relationship. You can take responsibility for the impact your words or behavior had, even if it wasn’t your intention.
Openly and respectfully discuss issues and confront disagreements without judgment. Conflict is a normal and expected part of any relationship. Everyone has disagreements, and that’s fine! A healthy conflict is recognizing the root problem and addressing it with respect before it becomes bigger. No one should belittle or yell during an argument.
They enjoy spending time together and bring out the best in each other. A healthy relationship should feel easy and make you happy. You can let go, laugh together and be yourself: the relationship does not take your spirits away, it makes you happy. No relationship is fun 100% of the time, but the good times should definitely be greater than the bad.